I am still processing the grief of losing both of my parents and, in that process, have thought a lot about the parent-child relationship. Not only from my perspective as a child but as a parent of adult children. What would I do different if I could do it over? What have I learned?
It is incredibly freeing to realize that my parents did the best they could. My view of them was primarily based on our parent-child relationship. However, that was just a part of who they were. I hope my boys know that I did and am continuing to do the best I can as a parent. However, it is very difficult to know how to encourage, support and teach valuable life lessons without being overbearing or intrusive.
Even if you do not have children of your own, you have probably struggled with the parent-child relationship or a quasi parent-child relationship. What were/are some of your biggest struggles and how did you handle them?
As an Aunt, it is often difficult to know how, when or how much to get involved between the parent and child. I have tried to respect the boundaries of their relationship and show my love and support to each of them when needed.
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